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Self-Esteem: Learning to love yourself

Beliefs Our beliefs are a fundamental part of our lives. What we believe, manifests, and our thoughts are orders to be obeyed and we will see reflected in our life experiences. If you think of fear, lack, out of love and failure, you will act as a magnet for it, drawing him naturally, instantly become your immediate reality.

Exactly the same happens when we think about money, love or success, they come easily, almost without looking causing daily miracles in our lives. The thoughts of this, create our future. The thoughts and words go together, both contain energy vibrations that attract what they call, events of the same quality of your vibrations.
thoughts are just that, and can be changed, we have the power to do, is just a schedule. We are solely responsible for the life we \u200b\u200bhave built, we can not blame fate, our parents to luck or God, if we accept our responsibility, we are giving the opportunity to choose a conscious change, that we are not allowed to return to our negative beliefs and of course to our life full of sacrifice and suffering.

Examples of negative beliefs: "Nobody loves me" "Everybody hurts" "I have no money" "I have no capacity for a better job" "I'm ugly"

Looking at the statements, we will account that could be summarized in one sentence: Low self-esteem. Is the result of not value ourselves as people, as workers, as capable of inspiring love, admiration, etc. This is what we believe and what we are experiencing.
Our Past
Our present life is a reflection of a past rooted in us. The experiences we made us think that this was life. What we saw in our environment, our society and the events were the influence that gave us a pattern of thoughts.
Remember how was your childhood? Is your teenager? How were your parents? What did you learn from them?

Our Fathers
Our parents are the main source of creation our pattern of beliefs. If we were lucky to live in a home full of love, unity and happiness of the way we won! and will soon be restored. But if you belong to a family aggressive, we repeated countless times, "You're worthless" "Nobody is going to lay down ti" "Success is for the rich" "Men do not cry" and so on., Then you will realize that a long list of these ideas are limiting building your current reality and that aside you have to fight a great deal of resentment, guilt and resentment, not only to your family, but also to yourself and to the world.

In the Bible we can make a vital lesson: "No judge thy father and thy mother. "This sentence is not by chance, has several reasons:

Our parents do the best they can, with the weapons they took on their experience with the past. If they did not teach them what love is not able to learn and therefore they could not teach you in this case, love encompasses everything and, among the self-esteem is a person with low self-esteem can have many nuances to demonstrate, from having attitudes violent (to force people to accept its ideas) as a weak and fearful character to face life.

In this world there is guilty, we are all participants in a role we play

by mutual agreement between God and us. This comes from other planes. That is where we choose the life we \u200b\u200bhere on Earth, from the city that will be born, until our skin color, and of course, we have also chosen to parents who have the elements that we need as learning. For everything bad that we could absorb, we can also find good things we learned.

our Old Home Recreation
When we became independent from our parents' house, and stayed with the beliefs we learned there, unconsciously though we disagree with it, return to build a home with the same characteristics . Words and phrases come at any time to meet us. Do you treat your children as you tried to you? Do you treat your spouse (a) as your father treated your mother?. Although not 100% as a recreation, details will always appear. If we do not agree with the life we \u200b\u200blive and do not want to create another home as is necessary to be aware of all our beliefs learned, to begin to change our history.

Choosing our thoughts thoughts are just that, and can be changed, we can choose between them. How many times have you refused to think you're a person successful? How many times have you accepted that you can inspire trust and love in others? In these cases, you are choosing these thoughts, in the same way, you can choose, contrary thoughts that raise your self esteem. Love for oneself is a fundamental part in this process of change and healing. The recognition of our own power and our capabilities is the way to choose life worth living. The life you've always wanted to have but we believe it is for us who do not deserve Problem Hometown

In most cases, the problem we see manifested in our life, not the real problem is that This is only the manifestation of what is the real problem.

No matter what type of problem, you may not have enough money, we're sick, do not have friends, do not get a good job ... in order. Whatever the problem has a bottom, a root, which end is the same in all cases.

The finding that root is like plucking the layers of an onion to get to the bottom, each layer represents a feature, a problem manifested, but it is not real, the real problem lies deep in the heart onion.


Understanding the Problem Most of our beliefs and our thoughts, from our childhood and were transmitted by our parents.

For example, the belief that "do nothing good" can come from a father who repeatedly told you "you're useless." This type of relationship becomes a vicious circle, the father with the desire to "Be someone in life" you may pay schools, invest in business for yourself, and there is nothing to succeed. Everything will fail. Life complies with the order - a belief that "you do not do anything right" but also your dad "pay" their mistake by investing all your money on you, lose it. At the same time the advantage of the situation to get back, repeating the phrase that we know.

Another example is the lack of self-love, which may come from the arduous task to gain acceptance from the people. Maybe you were a lot of time doing what they supposed would like your parents, but instead only received criticism, you did your best effort and nobody appreciated.

The fear of life, comes from some parents fearful about the same. If you were afraid to make a decision to initiate any changes, etc. I forwarded it, and probably the escape you every opportunity is becoming a habit, and in the worst case you find out that not all doors are open!. Fear and doubt are always present in you.

Exercise Make a list of all what your parents criticized you, which analyzes the messages were heard and what you learned what your parents thought the money? "The body? "About love and relationships? "The sex? "About your talents?. Now, increase your list, analyzing the beliefs of the whole environment they grew up (teachers, friends, church, relatives, etc).
As a last step eliminates these thoughts! Not yours! And they're limiting your scope

action words and beliefs
When such actions occur in childhood, often lifelong impact, what we learn as children, is important. For example, a child who is submissive and abused by his parents, he learns to be afraid of life, to feel that it is not worthy and the affection of their parents, learn to be below any symbol of authority (teacher, bosses, etc.) never would propose a new idea because no value would think "they are better than me"
What happens to a child who backed away from criticizing their decisions? Will the world at your fingertips! Because he learned with what he wanted, it was worth, so do not have in mind that can go wrong Have you ever wondered how you people do all it does is a success?.

Guilt and understanding As we grow we tend to blame our parents for the treatment they gave us, for the bonds that we inherited and the "damage" caused us.

When we decided to give this responsibility to our parents or those who believe have hurt us, then we are losing our power, we are losing the opportunity to renew and change.

Nobody has the power to harm us unless we allow, if we let the words and actions of others remain in us by way of beliefs, thoughts, emotions and affect us for the rest of our lives Whose responsibility is it?.

The only way we renew our thoughts and beliefs is through understanding. Understanding the cause of the facts, why, look at the events that lived in the past what did you learn from this?.

Understanding the attitude of your parents help to release any feelings of resentment. What kind of childhood did they have? Were they happy? If you did not teach them to love and love yourself how can habértelo taught? They acted in the best light of their own experiences, their own weapons. We offered the best of the resources they had. Speaking

higher planes
Some theories claim before coming to this world, souls are at higher levels, where you remember the life we \u200b\u200blead here, so the life that you took with your parents, was an agreement of the past, where both sides learn what needed to learn to evolve.

why we say: "Do not judge your father and your mother" do not have the power to do so, because we do not know the background of all, know God's plan. Everyone has a difficult task to recognize the root of our problems and beginning the work of our self-transformation.

Start by making a mental cleansing, like clean your house, remodel whatever is needed, roll it no longer serves or hinders, polishing which is in good condition and get even brightness.

If you decide to throw something, do it naturally, without getting angry or be sad, it's like throwing a stone into the trash, lightens your load right? Is cause for rejoicing.

Thoughts Menu
As already mentioned, most of our beliefs and thoughts, we have been inherited from our parents and our society from childhood.

Now is the time to analyze and make a selection of all your beliefs which is still valid? What works at this stage of your life?

If as a child learned that "there was no to trust strangers "Do you think that belief is useful for you right now? Time passes, life is changed and we do not have to keep walking to the rhythm of our thoughts of children. They no longer belong to our present stage of maturity and evolution.

Why do you think you are no good to study and why your first grade teacher told you you were terrible at math? Phrases like "Boys Do not Cry," "If you get sick you get wet "," girls do not climb trees "and so on., are highly damaging and limiting not only now but also where we learned when we were children.

A child who learns Learning to "mourn not" learn not to express your feelings, save, and eventually will live a "suffocating" because so much anguish withheld until their sensitivity gradually end up falling asleep, missing the good live well moments that life offers.

A child who learns that the water "so sick" that relationship is growing and will be refused to get wet in a rainstorm because they invariably get sick. Water is one of the four elements of Earth, is part of nature and as such, is for our benefit, not harm us how cold can give us if we get wet, if the flu is a viral disease? The flu is spread by a virus, not by contact with water.

A girl learns that she only intended the game "safe" is a girl who will grow with the eternal fear of the physical. You can not take a step without the fear of falling. Why a child can not climb a tree, a fence, play football? Why is the body of a child if you can run the risk of injury and not a girl? Is it more painful for the girl to the child? Physically both feel the same and have the same abilities as if developed. Children's games are fun, why deny them to the girls?

see, within our children learn things that pertain to the beliefs of others that are not ours and not always true.

is very important to stop and analyze each of our beliefs and see if they are still useful at this time or if they are true. Carrying inherited from our parents thoughts turn to them were given by our grandparents, and so on ... may no longer belong to this stage of evolution of both life in general and ourselves. We analyze the reason for every belief and if not useful ... Discard! It belongs to us!.

On the basis of this mechanism is formed belief-reality relationship, that is why our current thoughts are forming our future experiences. The past can not return and the future do not know if it will come, so our point of power is here and now, in our present. Making a mental cleansing thoroughly, we can change what we dislike about our life, your relationships with others, your finances, your studies, your job, your health, etc., Everything is governed by your thoughts, if there is something does not, it means that you need to learn something, that something has to change. Nothing in life works like "lucky" or cause "prize" or "punishment" divine. It is we who choose our present and future experiences through our beliefs and thoughts.

Exercise Make a list of everything that does not work well in your life, now covers all aspects of starting an account of your beliefs, for example:

If you live within the whole financial disaster, such Once your belief is "I'm not worthy of having money." If you have no friends, you might think "Nobody loves me," If you do not grow well in your work, perhaps because you think "you're no good in that area," If you live for others, to please them, you might think " I have never time for me. " Go slowly analyzing these relationships, do it quietly, if you prefer, you can do in the middle a meditation, it takes a subject, for example, "my relations" and when you meditate, ask yourself what are the beliefs that make you not be able to establish a lasting friendship. Little by little the answers will be coming.

This creates a "Menu of Thoughts" choose only those you do well and eliminate those you hurt ... As you would with what you eat, from a menu, never would "poison" is not it?.

This is a process, do not try to fix everything in one day, the thoughts we have acquired throughout our lives require a prudent time to change, not of the overnight. Never despair, take it calmly, go step by step and is noticing changes in your life.

When we detect the root of our problems we are taking a big step, we are half way there, now we only thought we had to replace the one positive, one useful to our lives ... worth a try. Preparing

Change It's time to start making changes. We could say that this is just the point that most fears. It is at this stage of the road which expresses the resistance to change. In which reflects our fear of leaving our old beliefs.

Many times this fear of change manifested by anger, every time you touch a chord jumps anger as a defense, as a shield. Every time someone mentions something you do not agree you get mad trying to convince that your ideas are "perfect."

make such changes is not easy nor is accomplished in the overnight, is a process where you need to have an open mind to perceive what is wrong, and be willing to change , always, because we never stop learning or change, is part of our evolutionary process. WC

interior
When we decided to do general cleaning in our house, we decide that there are many things to fix.

shook off for removing the dust, then discover that most of our belongings are in good condition and will shake or wash them well. Others need repair because they may be broken but still necessary. Discover that there are many things that must be saved to throw them out because they do not need them anymore.

cleaning in our house can take a little time at the beginning, as we bring the old stuff, it could be that is more chaotic than it was, but as we are making the selection of the things that will throw and retain you will notice that everything returns to its original site and your house will look with more room than before ... freer. This day cleaning is done with taste, any way you get angry every time you throw something away is not it, on the contrary, you are freeing up clutter.

The same happens within us, a "sacudidita" our thoughts and beliefs will help us to start removing layer by layer what hurts us to find the bottom.

Then we start the selection process serves you and what hinders you? What beliefs were helpful when you were a child but are now limiting?, Once you have found will be discarded, no longer need to save more. As with the cleanliness of your home, these changes seem to have led to greater disorder, you may feel a little bad, maybe some demonstrations in your body such as back pain, neck or depressions. This is normal as things are removed from the subconscious that we have no present or planned. It's like when someone stops smoking, they would just attack the flu continues in a long time, this person has to detoxify, remove as it hurts and then cured.

These changes are an internal revolution that will end with manifest harmony in all aspects of your life.

When you feel you want to leave things as they are because " People do not change, "he repeats the statement during the day:" I am willing to change. "If you can do it in front of a mirror a lot better. The power exercised is such that it is possible to accelerate the learning of new mental patterns.

Where to begin?
There are 3 approaches where you can make changes directly, the spiritual focus, mental and physical. There is no set rule or an order to follow. sufficient to initiate change in any of these areas to be reflected in the others. Choose the one that appeals to you and start there. For example on a spiritual level you can choose the prayers, meditation mentally or physically diet naturist. Whichever approach you choose is fine, if you opt for meditation areas are activated in your brain that will make you feel attracted by the prayers and a healthier diet, stop smoking, and like to keep your house clean and tidy. Everything is connected, so start the way that makes you happier.

advantage of this change!

Resistance to Change Resistance to change is normal in this process, we all want a better life, but the creation of this new life is not easy, takes time, patience and a lot of openness on the part of us.

This is the time to deal with our reality and above all to take responsibility for it. We can not blame people or our bad luck in the state in which we live. Only we have the power to do us good or evil, to move or stay stagnant, we who govern our feelings, emotions and thoughts, so that only we can make changes to begin to create us a different reality.

The first step to change is our desire to do so, our decision and will. Then shall the knowledge of what we have to change, at this stage we can see our shortcomings in many ways, it may be that something has always bothered or limited and it is clear to us. Also may be that we see reflected in the people who are around us, maybe criticize your friend for being a liar and if you look a little, maybe you also have recourse to lies continuously. Matches start, and we see issues, books or people, can help to dissolve our problem.

can react in many ways to this situation, resist change can be reflected in attitudes as

Change the topic of conversation, anger, smoking, doing something to keep you entertained, wasting time, not finished read a self-help book, etc. The following are some reactions from many, that denote the avoidance of topic, There are other reactions that are reflected in phrases such as: It's too expensive, too much work, do not I have faith, if I do not change them either, I'm like, I can not miss my job, goes against my religion my philosophy, I'm too old, I have no time now but I will later, I'm okay, they who are wrong, what the neighbors think?, if I express my feelings hurt.

The list is endless, all excuses for not changing are applicable to our resistance.

There is no reason not to, there are always alternatives to change, without spending any money, without spending all your time, true Change is in our consciousness and is a process that occurs while still carrying out all functions, all your work ... while following the course of life. Liberation

Need Free
our need, is to cure the problem, locate the root of it, so that automatically the problem is obvious away without suffering. There are many problems that people continually want to leave "with force of will" such as quitting smoking or dieting. In reality, these are not the problem, are symptoms of a real problem, which lies further what is it that makes you smoke? Perhaps the stress from work, economic instability, insecurity of yourself, fear of life, etc., What makes you eat compulsively? Loneliness, heartbreak, the need to be protected, depression, etc.

When we use our "willpower" to eliminate a problem, we are causing is an intense struggle between what we want and we must do is go against ourselves, is a constant torture and a fight to end because discover "that we have no discipline or will" and desist from the change. If we manage to locate the necessity causes us to take refuge in this problem, we will be releasing it. If you have security in yourself and stop being uncertain future for you, you will not need to smoke. If you feel loved and protected, you will not need to take refuge in food to "pamper". Releasing the need, we release the problem without pain and best of all forever!.

Attitudes that keep us moving
The misconception that we have for ourselves is what can jam our process of change, if you feel that you are not worthy to be better, you're not competent, if not you love Also, if you help instead of criticism, if you live mourning for the success of others, hoping that success would have been for you. If you do not start to forgive yourself, forgive your mistakes, accept that you are a human being entitled to make mistakes, you can not advance change.

useless worries need to be released only take away time and energy and devote ourselves to our central problem.

be gentle with yourself, demuéstrate yourself how much you love and do not be defensive, or preparing auto-attack and then lament.

The Inner Child
Most of our problems begin in our childhood, trauma and complex take them at that stage. The child who learned that it was not useful to life, he stayed there, and is still coming in our adulthood, when we see a problem the fear of our children out immediately. Instead of feeling angry about why fear Why not embrace your child and say that all is well? There is nothing to fear because you are to protect and preserve. Dale comfort until you feel safe. Perhaps

adults who lived in your childhood, they could not give you the support you needed at that time, now your turn to be the adult ... do not repeat history. A frightened child needs to be comforted and not reprimanded, is back in your life, just as you felt when no one understood and you felt belittled or humiliated, he feels now your inner child, treat him as you'd like to treat you at that time.
Start loving yourself, both in need

for the Liberation
When we are in a process of change, it sometimes seems that nothing we have done work, everything becomes confusing and it seems that is a revolution because things are getting worse in our lives, even what we are trying to change.

If you are working for prosperity, can that money you were about to charge, for any reason and can not. If you are working to improve your relationships, maybe you fight with your best friend. If you are working for your health, many diseases can come, and so on., Do not worry, this is normal. When we started a change began to remove all our past, to try to heal one point, he will defoliating problems, one by one, without realizing it, we had no problems will come for free account.

I give you a physical example: the people who have smoked for a long time and now want to quit, will experience continued discomfort similar to flu, this means that we already made the decision to remove from our lives a dependency hurts us, but our body needs to eliminate toxins that remain mostly in our lungs and this has to be released, leaving us now if the change is complete and from root. No use in quitting smoking, if we let the havoc inside. This is seen physically in our body.

works the same way you want to change anything in your life, "remove" many things in the past that may cause momentary discomfort, but this is a sign, that things are working, is at this point where you release all that is wrong.

You will notice that everything becomes like a chain, and what does not seem to have any relationship, it now appears that if available.

Following the example of the cigar, as you make the decision to leave, and smoking, you start to notice that your relationships are not sincere enough you realize now, because before there was a "Smokescreen" that you do not let him see, but you realize not only that, but you also discover that they are not sincere because you are always criticizing, but it turns out you're the cause of everything that happens in your life, then you to the past and remember that you were heavily criticized as a child and now you have the "need" to continue to be criticized. At this point you've come to the first link in the chain, if you step by step curing the above (your relationships and the need for criticism), you will no longer feel the urge to smoke. No more dependency, need. And you left him without suffering, without "will power" and what is best healed How many points in your life not functioning well?. You have to be very open to receive the signals that we will give our body and mind know what to do, even more than we do, give the opportunity to freely express all that has to change.

Exercises
freedom from want Everything that is wrong in our lives, is an unconscious desire to be so, is a necessity that we have inadvertently created.

Here are 2 statements that you should leave work at the same time, no matter the order, or the schedule can be anytime, anywhere, aloud or mentally.

"I am willing to release the 'need' ... "This statement should add what you want to change, for example:" need gap "," the urge to smoke "," need to be fat, "" the need all I get hurt "and so on. This statement can be repeated as many times as you want during the day.

The exercise that follows, you must do so preferably in front of a mirror and repeating several times in a daily session, with it will enough.

"Now I understand that I created this situation and now I am ready to release the pattern in my consciousness that is responsible for this condition"

We must take into account that everything is in our mind, but there is something very important, we who have the power over our minds, we do not mind who has power over us, that too is a belief, a schedule, and a habit.

Use your mind as a tool, be selective in your thoughts, just get those who are able to create you happiness and discard those you can create pain or suffering.

Our work will focus here and now, in our present to start building our future, we must consider the way in which we develop now is a result of our past and that it can not be changed, but it can be cured to form the future and the experiences we want to live. That is the control of our mind, our re-programming. Do not worry if at first your mind is also revealed to new changes, it is normal, a change of habit always the same, but ignoring it, continued to insist, in no time you will succeed.

Structure of the New
The structure of our changes is based on the education of our mind. Is learning to see the positive in our lives is to think, feel, live, act positive. It is our best weapon is our tool of power.

Changing Poles
Step
Throughout our lives, We learned to think negative, we have so entrenched that most times we do not realize it, we do not realize that our faith is right in that we do not want.

To begin, we must change our way of creating affirmations, for example the following table:
Say Say No I do not want to be fat I'm slim I do not want to be poor I am rich I hope you pass the exam I passed I hope to win the prize that has won Perfect perfect
Here are some examples, as you can see, in the first column is encrypted our faith in the negative, as "it may be." All our "possibilities" we have to exchange them for "security." No way to doubt, fear, the absolute assurance that our petitions will be heard and our wishes granted is a sign of faith. We can not pray to God almighty and loving, with the doubt whether "may" help. We know that not only can, want to help. Step

Any thing that we focus our attention grows. If you have problems and you spend all day and all night turning, do not doubt that it will increase. If you fix your attention on the lack of money, no money will follow. Do not set your attention on the problems, fix them on solutions. Reza and acts, that is, if you lose your job, given the steps you have to give get a good job, set your contacts, your appointments, leave your curriculum vitae in all places, in order to do everything in your hands, then give it time to time (and God too), leave it in your hands, Stop thinking about your lack of employment, and expected (this is a good test of patience as well) but it is the only way not to hinder things and give free passage for the best option among those that took to materialize. It is best to let him come to you. Step Three

apruébate yourself, love yourself, feel deserving of all good. Most often, the lack of love for ourselves closes the door any opportunity that is to come. How many times we became dealers, we sell the best product or service but feel guilty about charging people? we feel that we stole. This is want the money, but believe that our work is not worth enough. You just learn to value ourselves. Often
buy any number of any sweepstakes or lottery gambling and think, "if I win the prize, shared with so and so, sutanito, etc." If you think that way are taking away our own worth, you deal your prize with which "If they deserve" if so, hard win, not only because you let yourself in last place was worth, but because you're also wanting to change the fate of some or many people How can we know whether these changes are within the Divine Plan?. No one can know, but if the intention you have in mind is not within the Plan of God, you are not given.

As an exercise, repeat at any time all the time "I approve of myself", if possible do it in front of a mirror. Step Four

Think about all those things that make you happy, do what you really enjoy at least once a week. Exercise at your own pace. Nourish your body and your mind with food that your body requires.
If you adopt the habit of doing everything you enjoy, you will stimulating your mind to create awareness of happiness, this is also an exercise which must be done "to be in condition." If you get used to be good about yourself, love for yourself, not go into situations that you harm, you know the happiness and not be willing to let go.